Hello, I’m Raychel! I’m the Co-Founder of Big Blue Couch Coaching. I am a busy mom of three, and I’m married to the man I fell in love with at 15 years old. I have a great big blue couch in my living room. If cushions could talk…this couch would have a story to tell! It’s literally where life happens around here.


I grew up with my little brother in small towns and cities all over the Midwest. Seriously. My parent’s moved over 30 times in the 19 years they were married and I was along for most of them! I’ve moved a lot!

At 15 years old, I met the boy who would one day become my husband. I had dreams of becoming a teacher, an accountant, or an architect when I graduated. But, instead of going to college I spent many years “Discovering myself.” After high school, I went to the local beauty school. I dropped out. (Cue Frankie Avalon)

After that, my mom gave me an ultimatum…get off of her couch and get a job or move out. I enrolled in the Estiology program at the Aveda Institute. I was off to the big city of Minneapolis, MN!! I graduated with honors and began working in the beauty and spa industry at 19 years old.

Not long after, against all good sense and reason, my 18 year old high school sweetheart and I took the plunge and tied the knot. 3 months after his high school graduation, my first love became my husband. We had no idea what we were getting ourselves into!

During the first 6 years of our marriage we struggled to survive. Immaturity, debt problems, drinking too much, emotional infidelity, and seasons of depression and postpartum nearly made us walk away more than once.

Against all odds, we survived. These days we are happily married with 11 years under our belt and we look forward to many more years together. I finally went back and got that college degree and managed to stay on the dean’s list while raising three little one’s. I have a job I love and I company I’m proud of. Hubby is thriving in the ND oil patch where he found his passion over 9 years ago.

This blog is my story. It’s really our story. And, we want to share it with you. It’s how we survived those years. It’s how I found healing and redemption and hope. It’s how I found the faith to keep going when everything inside me said to give up. It’s how I survived depression and postpartum. It’s how I learned to love myself and see my true worth as a daughter of the King.

It’s when I discovered that how I think is how I will act…and how I changed my thoughts and my life! It’s how I discovered beauty and grace instead of scrunchies and sweatpants. And, it’s how I balance life as a busy mom of three and a business owner with a hubby who is gone half the year.

It’s a crazy, messy, beautiful life but it’s mine. I love it. I hope you find hope, help, and encouragement in our story.

[Editors Note: October 2014]

You can now find me at my new blog home at Big Blue Couch Coaching!

I hope to inspire and encourage you in your journey! Grab a cup of coffee, curl up on your sofa, and stay awhile. It’s going to be an amazing journey and I’m glad to have you along for the ride!

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My Top Posts

If you are new here, you might want to start with some of my most popular posts. Here are my top 5:

  1. 20 Fun Questions to Ask Your Spouse
  2. How to Recover from an Emotional Affair
  3. 10 Prayers for my Husband
  4. 10 ways to Kill Your Marriage
  5. The Power of Your Words

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Raychel Chumley is a Life & Marriage Coach, Blogger, Speaker, and Mom-preneur. She is the Co-Founder of Big Blue Couchtm Coaching. After experiencing years of a tumultuous marriage, postpartum depression, and toxic thinking, Raychel is on a mission to help other wives understand that what they think is how they will act. She equips women to replace toxic and harmful beliefs for truth so they can overcome obstacles and live with purpose. Her passion and message makes her a sought after speaker and coach. She lives in North Dakota with her husband of 11 years and their 3 children.

Raychel is Life and Marriage Coach. She has a BS in Psychology and Biblical Counseling from Liberty University. She is a member in good standing of the American Association of Christian Counselors (AACC), the Christian Coaching Alliance and the Internal Association of Christian Coaches (IACC). Raychel’s life coach training, and continuing education, is through Light University. Raychel is a graduate of The Aveda Instituate in Esthiology science. She is a licensed Esthetician in the state of ND and has spent over 12 years in the beauty industry.

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This is my personal blog. The information I provide is for entertainment and educational purposes only. I am not a licensed therapist or medical doctor. The information on this blog should not be used in place of seeking appropriate counseling, therapy, or medical attention. I will not be liable for any losses, injuries, or damages arising from its use.


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